Now building the confidence to talk to a woman at a party or a bar, an event, an outing. It is something that has been discussed a lot. Now you know the problem though with a lot of these conversations because really they’ve been manuals books YouTube videos that have attempted to address this matter. The problem is most of them is just the fact that they make it seem so complicated, now if you ask me to approach the woman, shouldn’t be a game of chess it is not as complicated as some people make it sound. How to Build Confidence and Become More Attractive
10 ways to approach a woman especially if you’re interested or want to make her acquaintance.
Number 1: Be chill
Now I know approaching the stranger is not a chill thing to do because of course you’re most likely gonna interrupt them, interrupting their flow, their conversation with somebody else or just interrupting their thoughts, I get that but you see put yourself in their shoes. I think back to a time that someone approach you for one thing or another, what you expected of them is for them to be, cool calm, and collected, no need for them to be nervous or on edge or jittery, now once you start to exhibit those kinds of signs, it raises a bit of doubt in a person you are approaching, it makes them you know a little uncomfortable with you, and you may not get your desired result that you are actually looking for so if you want to approach a woman successfully please by all means be cool be calm be collected and remember if you are interested to approach a woman who is in public so you must have to start to pretend to yourself that she’s an old friend that you’re meeting and that will help calm your nerves a little bit.
- Ditch the pickup lines
Now it is totally understandable that you will feel nervous when you’re approaching someone, right for the first time someone you don’t know when a total stranger however please resist the urge to give the cheesy eye-rolling downright ridiculous pick up lines that guys usually do go straight to the point get to know how organically keep the flattery in your back pocket nobody needs that and just you know approach her with all honesty originality and if she’s gonna like you she absolutely will but by all means please stay away from the pickup lines that’s not gonna get you very far.
- Read the room
Now by that I mean actually pay attention to what is going around the surrounding person of interest now if she’s someone busy chatting away on her phone she is chatting with someone else probably has a laptop in front of her and she’s doing some work you may not want to approach her at that very moment. You see the keto flotation is timing and if you get the timing wrong you will completely blow things out of the water and at the end of the day you’ll be the only one on the losing end sorry the room what’s going on what’s happening around her. Does she have a welcoming face or does she have that bitch resting face that says don’t approach me it is very important that you pay attention to what is going on her immediate surrounding to be able to really time yourself appropriately to increase your chances of success and have a meaningful conversation with a stranger that you absolutely want to know so read the room
- Number four is to check her body for positive inviting cues; listen guys do not ignore if the woman looks unapproachable, I know they’re people who have generally very unapproachable looks you know like people tell me for instance like when I’m not smiling I look too serious and you know I look really unapproachable. And there are people like that people like me maybe but body language also matters. Does she smile at a little chance that she gets? Is she smiling at someone else in the room? is she smiling at the waiter who saves her for instance? I mean read her body language there is open body language and there is closed body language if she probably sit with her arms folded that might be a cue that she is not willing to engage anybody at all whereas if she’s smiling a lot looking around the room as if she’s trying to magically invite someone over to her corner there are chances that she wants to be approached by someone and so read her body language accurately or at least close to accurately so that you don’t make a completely fool out of yourself now once you do approach and slide into a conversation it may be easy for you to know whether this is the conversation that she wants to keep it going if she is actually smiling back at you and engaging you as suppose to looking away and trying not to be bothered do these are all cues that you absolutely must know before you approach and when you actually do invade her space and time to try to engage her, you know the kind of body language that’s she exudes also matters and it should be a big cue for you, there are some guys don’t know when to stop, you know you approach a woman she’s not forthcoming and yet you keep pushing that can be annoying and she might just call security on you,you don’t want to be that guy
- Check your own body language.
Now it’s important you get your own body language right. In some cases are heard people saying that when you… you know want to approach a woman approach her more on the side as opposed to the head-on because Head-on could be quiet intimidating depending on the kind of a person you are how you look how tall you are that kind of thing , so you wanna catch her by surprise by her side but do not also stufle her because if she turns around and looks to a face that she can’t recognise aaahh she might end up screaming and you don’t want that so gently approach from an angle position as opposed to head on position as that might painting a picture of you being a less imposing figure it’s important for you to be confident and not cocky when you approach her and this lies on more than just what you say but when and how you act as well or how you behave when you have her attention so first of all be sure to make an eye contact when you are talking to her keep your eyes focused on her and not in an intimidating way but more like a friendly inviting way if that makes her feel more comfortable smile, smile with your eyes
- Keep your stakes low
And by this I mean cut your code close according to your size now there are some women that you know that you don’t need me to tell you you actually know that they are Way out of your League let them be all right, for status you may not have the flare to kind of even engage them in any meaningful conversation and really you should know exactly what you are bringing to the table, monkeys playing by sizes, and trust me there are other women out there who you could potentially approach and level with so keep the stakes low, size her up find if she’s a kind of girl that you are comfortable or confident enough to approach and go for it or not
- Don’t ask for her number
At least not right away okay.
I have really liked all my interaction that where I have met guys and they have rather given their numbers to me and given me the option to follow up and reach out. Now doing something like that straight away tells the woman that you are leading the ball to their Court as to whether they want to make something out of your meeting and probably see you again plus you’re not putting her into an awkward position to say no to you when she doesn’t want to give you her number, or giving you her number and then later ignoring your calls so guys first rule in the bookso guys first rule in the book is to make sure that you do not ask for her number why give her your number instead if she never reaches out she was never interested from the get-go and trust me it saves you a lot of time, money and effort
- Pay attention to non-verbal cues
There are certain things that she may not say like stay away or anything but she will act moving her body away from you, you are trying to engage her but she’s always on her phone barely looking me up to hear you or answer your questions and that kind of thing, take a cue alright, she may not say it,not every woman is straight forward to tell you I don’t want your attention get the…… out of here some women will just sort of bear with you bear with the situation until they go. don’t forget a lot of women will have men hit on them at any particular point in time so the first thing that happen when men approach is the defence wall just spring up so you’re really need to be paying attention to those nonverbal cues and negative body language that’s will straight away tell you that hey my guy move on to something better or something else
- Be comfortable with rejection
Now I’ve seen a man approach a woman and things go to 0 to 100 really fast where 100 was she was livid literally shouting at him get the … Away from her.guys do not fear rejection I know I am a woman and probably I have experienced that too many times in my life but really don’t fear rejection if you fear rejection you’ll never have the opportunity to actually experience life for what it is rejection is normal part of life and in actual fact I did a whole video on how to deal with rejection and I will share it in the description below and you can click on that as well to watch it if you haven’t but do not fear rejection it’s okay to be rejected if she doesn’t want you there will be hundreds of other women who possibly do, now it’s important to enter in every situation with high involvement but with low attachment what does that mean it means that you are engaged and ready to connect and optimistic about your opportunity but you have little attachment to the results search that if it goes the other way as in the way that you do not appreciate or you do not anticipate you won’t be too disappointed and you can still move on and finally
10. Respect her time
So you have approached her she laughs all night she seems to love your company and everything I think because you have interrupted her night whatever that may mean you should always leave her wanting more okay ,now she obviously didn’t come out expecting to meet you but somewhere somehow your paths crossed which is fantastic but I will say leave her wanting more so it was great let’s say you spent 20, 30 minutes chatting with her getting to know her she was receptive and everything but attempt to leave even allow her to say oooh don’t go I’m totally enjoying your company or just say I know I was here and I really like what I saw and I thought we can be friends the reason I came over I will not take much of your time tonight but if you like to connect here’s my number call me and vanish she will wonder who you are because not a lot of guys do that in fact they usually don’t even know when to stop so if you can master that dude you are halfway there, so give her time respect her time and bow out before the game get cold. How to Build Confidence and Become More Attractive